Author name: Selma van der Graaf

Our society often celebrates complete independence and self-sufficiency. But complete independence and self-sufficiency does not exist. Because as human beings we rely on one another to thrive and heal. While we can function autonomously, true growth and development often require the presence and influence of others. So, what does autonomy really mean? And why is […]

I often hear people saying, “Just let it go.” A common piece of advice, especially when dealing with behaviours or coping mechanisms we have carried with us throughout our lives, and no longer serve us. But what does letting go mean? And can’t we truly do that? You can’t just let go of these patterns.

One of the lessons from last week’s coaching days with tibor.nl. You will never be done with your work, you will never be finished with making something better, or with creating something new – and then you die. Every morning when we wake up, we either start something new, or continue with our work, tasks

I remember one appointment with my physical therapist very clearly. He helped me with severe lower back pain and one of his solutions was: yoga. My core stability and flexibility was really bad, he told me. Yoga could help with training my core and stretching muscles and tissue that were tight and caused my lower

“It’s not about managing your emotions. It’s about managing the reaction to your emotions,” I came across this quote from Yung Pueblo when I was suffering from a headache. I realized that I had a headache because I was suppressing anger and frustration. Instead of understanding and expressing these emotions, I was simply trying to