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Choose to know yourself and live in a way that feels right

"Selma has a unique ability to sense exactly where you are and guide you from there. Her presence is clear and grounded, creating space to explore, reflect, and uncover what truly matters, all with a mix of gentleness and strength."
Selma van der Graaf

Doing More Feeling Less

Always busy. Always moving. You push through, thinking if you just keep going, the stress and restlessness will fade.

But it doesn’t. Your mind keeps running, while your body whispers for attention. Tension, fatigue, discomfort: signals you’ve learned to ignore.

You don’t need more discipline.
You need more awareness.

Yoga, breathwork, and systemic work help you tune in. To notice what drives you, and what drains you. To listen to your body, to your emotions, to your energy.

It’s not about working harder. It’s about living lighter. Balancing action with rest, growth with reflection. Noticing what matters most to you, what gives you energy, and what leaves you drained.

When you make choices that match who you are and what you want, everything changes. Rest comes naturally. Sleep gets deeper. Your energy returns, giving you the focus and flow to do what you love. Work becomes easier, relationships feel smoother, and life becomes more balanced. Why? Because you learned to choose it that way.

Do you want to start living in a way that feels right for you?

Each Day Is a Chance to Choose
What Matters

Many of us go through life following paths set by others. Choosing what’s expected. Doing what “should” be done. Trying to fit in.

It feels safe at first. But over time, it leaves you drained, restless, and unfulfilled. You lose touch with what really matters to you, what gives you energy, and what makes you feel alive.

I’ve always chosen my own path. A different school than my siblings. Sports no one expected me to play. Travelling the world. And eventually, a career that felt right for me.

The older I got, the more I understood that choosing your own path (and even though it’s not always easy) actually builds strength and energy. It takes courage to do things differently, to step away from expectations, and to try a new way. But when you do, calm, direction, and growth naturally follow.

Selma van der Graaf

How I can help

Events

When you need a pause, our events invite you to feel and explore. Tune into your breath, notice your body, and discover patterns.
Short, immersive experiences full of inspiration and awareness that you carry into your daily life.

yoga teacher trainings

Ready to go deeper? Our trainings guide you through your practice and your inner world.
Learn to truly understand yoga, develop yourself, and guide others with authenticity.
A transformative journey that enriches both your practice and your life.

1:1 Sessions

When tension lingers and your mind keeps racing, a 1:1 session helps you slow down and reconnect.
Through breath and movement, you release stress, tune into your body, and strengthen your resilience.
Experience space, calm, and clarity that stays with you throughout your day.

This is why people get more
from working with me

  • You notice what gives you energy and what drains you
  • You discover your natural strengths and how to use them
  • You see the patterns that keep repeating and learn how to work with them
  • You understand your reactions and emotions more clearly
  • You get practical tools to make choices that feel right for you
  • You recognise where your growth potential lies
  • You prevent burnout, stress, and endless overthinking