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When do we talk and when are we silent? How do we make sure that our communication is mindful? Here is a beautiful way to look at it: <\/span>The four gates of speech is a principle derived from a Sufi tradition and is used to encourage thoughtful and mindful communication. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Before speaking, you are encouraged to pass your words through these four “gates” to ensure that the communication is beneficial and appropriate. Here are the four gates of speech:<\/span><\/p>\n

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Gate 1. Is it true?<\/strong><\/h6>\n

Before speaking, consider whether what you are about to say is factually accurate and truthful. Avoid spreading falsehoods or half-truths.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gate 2. Is it necessary?<\/strong><\/h6>\n

Ask yourself if what you are about to say is essential. Sometimes, even if something is true, it may not need to be said if it serves no real purpose.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gate 3. Is it kind?<\/strong><\/h6>\n

Evaluate whether your words are kind and compassionate. Even when speaking the truth, it\u2019s important to communicate in a way that does not cause unnecessary harm or hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gate 4. Is it the right time?<\/strong><\/h6>\n

Timing is so important. Even if your words are true, necessary, and kind, it\u2019s important to assess whether it\u2019s the appropriate moment to share them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Using the four gates of speech transforms how we connect with others, as we bring clarity, kindness, and intention in our conversations. By practicing mindful communication, we create space for empathy, reduce misunderstandings and build meaningful relationships. Next time you speak, let these four gates guide you toward words that are true, necessary, kind, and timely. Because each word we share has the potential to shape your world and the world around us.<\/p>\n

Would you like to learn how to bring this in practice? In the Vinyasa Teacher Training we will work with this theme. Find more information about the teacher training at the website of Yogaschool Noord. <\/a>Or contact me for a discovery call<\/a> about the training<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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